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Spring 2023 Season Update


Exeter Youth Lacrosse Association Says

THANK YOU for an amazing Spring 2023 Season!

We are excited and prepared for Spring 2024!

Thank you to our wonderful families and athletes who enjoyed the sport of lacrosse with EYLA this past Spring 2023!  The kids had a great time!  We had new families get involved and seeing the kids outdoors enjoying the game of lacrosse was just what the doctor ordered!  Thank you all! 


At the local and state level we have already begun preparations for the Spring 2024 lacrosse season. As a Board, Exeter Youth Lacrosse meets monthly in preparation for the season. At the state level, the New Hampshire Youth Lacrosse Association has also been meeting monthly to be best prepared. Our Goal is to be ready to start a full Spring 2024 season! 


NHYLA’s Opening Day has not yet been announced.

EYLA will share more information as we receive it.


Thank you for being a part of EYLA




EYLA does participate with #areuin - Please email Dorine at dccaswell@aol.com for more information



The Exeter Youth Lacrosse Association Board of Directors


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Becoming a Lacrosse Official
Dear Parent,   As you are aware the Exeter Youth Lacrosse...
Welcome to the 2023 Season
Welcome to the 2023 Season Dates To Get On the Calendar  If...
Frequently Asked Questions for Spring 2023 EYLA Season
Frequently Asked Questions for Spring 2023 EYLA Season These...
How Strengthen Relationships with Boys Can Help Them Learn
How Strengthening Relationships with Boys Can Help Them Learn Years...
Choosing the Correct Girls Stick
Hi All, We have had a number of inquiries regarding choosing the...
Becoming a Lacrosse Official

Dear Parent,


As you are aware the Exeter Youth Lacrosse Association is a volunteer program and it takes many hands to make this a great experience for your players. We are always looking for head coaches, assistant coaches, timers, score keepers, field liners, and an assortment of other positions each season.

I would like to suggest yet another way for you to become involved in your players lacrosse experience. It is our plan this year to provide more games and scrimmages at all levels. Often, the key to being able to hold a game or scrimmage is the availability of certified lacrosse officials. Each year we train a number of youth officials, boys and girls 15 years of age or older, to officiate our games. Unfortunately, all of our youth officials are also players. Since they also have a practice and game schedule, along with a school work load, they are usually only available on Sundays. We would like to hold games on weeknights and Saturdays, as well as our Sunday League schedule. To accomplish this we would like to have a group of parents train as lacrosse officials. Training consists of classroom and on field training, see details at NHYLA.org. Officiating is not gender specific. Women officiate the men’s game and men can officiate the women’s game. It is your choice to choose one route or the other. Officiating can be a very rewarding experience and an opportunity to stay in shape. Officials also receive payment for their services.

Please go to NHYLA.org to review the requirements (scroll down To All Interested in Becoming a Youth Lacrosse Official) and call me with any questions. The first classroom training sessions will begin on February 3, 2022 here in Exeter at the Seacoast School of Technology on 40 Linden Street.


Wayne Demers

by posted 01/12/2022
Welcome to the 2023 Season

Welcome to the 2023 Season

Dates To Get On the Calendar

 If you are new to lacrosse coaching and would like to ask some questions please feel free to contact Courtney Benevides at courtney.benevides@gmail.com girls, or Dan Lombardi at  dlombardi@somersworthpt.com boys or Dorine Caswell at dccaswell@aol.com.

Here we will post dates to put on your calendars in preparation for the 2023 season. The Board has been working to prepare for the upcoming season and we wanted to give you an update on where we are with preparations.

We have to commit teams to NHYLA by March 1 as to how many teams we will field and we will only allow late registrations to those teams who NEED more players. 

The league has changed from age to grade in deciding eligibility plus the division language has changed. The new look is U15 is now 14U = 7th & 8th graders, U13 is now 12U = 5th & 6th graders, 10U = 3rd & 4th graders, and 8U = K-2nd graders. We will field boys and girls 8U, 10U, 12U, & 14U teams in NHYLA. 

NHYLA has Released the Spring 2023 Lacrosse Season:

OPENING DAY: Sunday April 8th Opening Day

The remaining schedule will be posted once NHYLA releases dates.


Coach certification continues to be a requirement for NHYLA coaches to be on the sidelines. If you have not become a US Lacrosse certified Level 1 coach you should begin that process now. To register go to uslacrosse.org, click on Participants then Coaching Education Program and follow directions from there. The process includes an online course followed by an on-site course. You will also need to become a member of US Lacrosse to begin the process. The final step will be to successfully complete the background check and the Safe Sport online course. Exeter Youth Lacrosse will reimburse you for any expenses that you incur with your US Lacrosse course work (USL membership, courses, and background check).

There will be an annual Rules Interpretation meeting TBA. This will be held at TBD. We will have official’s trainers (men’s and women’s) on site to update the new rule changes and to review Personal and Technical fouls. This is for the both the boys and girls rules updates. By NHYLA rules all coaches must attend a Rules Interpretation training prior to the beginning of each season.

Finally, we would once again like to thank you for stepping up to help us make this past 2021 season a great time for the children in our care. We are looking forward to Spring 2023!

-- The Exeter Youth Lacrosse Board

by posted 09/14/2021
Frequently Asked Questions for Spring 2023 EYLA Season

Frequently Asked Questions for Spring 2023 EYLA Season

These are the most commonly asked questions for Spring 2023 Registration/Tryout process.

This list will be updated periodically, but always feel free to email dccaswell@aol.com with any questions you may have.


1. My child has never played lacrosse before. Do they have to try out?

ANSWER:  We do have tryouts but only for the purpose of building teams appropriately. EYLA does not require players to tryout. All players will be placed appropriately on a team based on their ability and history with the sport of lacrosse. EYLA does not hold tryouts for grades K-2.


2. Does my player need to wear their 'gear' to tryouts?

ANSWER: Yes, for your child's safety all players must dress 'GAME READY' for tryouts and anytime when on the field.


3.  When are the games?


NHYLA has Released the Spring 2023 Lacrosse Season:

Tentatively NHYLA has said Sunday April 8th is Opening Day

The remainder of the schedule has not been released yet.


4. When is the last possible day we can get a refund?

ANSWER:  EYLA has to submit and pay NHYLA for teams March 1, 2022. We base teams off of the amount of players registered and monies collected.  Registration closes February 20th and this is the cut off date for refunds. Any refunds prior to registration closing on February 20th, 20223will exclude a $30 credit card processing fee that EYLA incurs with each registered player.


 5. What gear does my player need to wear?


NEW TO EYLA Spring 2023 Season for Uniform:


EYLA has removed the Uniform cost from the registration and NEW THIS YEAR we will have each player order their own individual uniform. This will allow each player to size their shirt/shorts accordingly and also have the opportunity  to have their name on the uniforms.



The additional cost for the new uniform is $68.00

Sizes are not guaranteed, Quantities and sizes are limited and on a first come first serve basis and Customization no longer available.



  Great Question!  Girls need a mouth guard, goggles, cleats and stick.  Helmets are not required, but optional.

Boys New to Spring 2022 USA Lacrosse ruling: 

Effective January 1, 2022, shoulder pads for boys’ field players must be designed for lacrosse and meet NOCSAE standard ND200














Boys must also wear lacrosse gloves, cup, elbow pads, cleats, mouth guard, helmet and stick.

Both Boys and Girls can get their gear at Dick's Sporting Goods, and other local/on line retailers.  
Please reach out (dccaswell@aol.com) if you are having trouble sourcing equipment and we will do our best to assist you.


6. It is December 2nd and I just registered my player.  Am I still eligible for the discounted rate?

ANSWER:  Unfortunately not, the registration deadline for the discount was 11/30/2022, any registrations received after 11/30/2022 are $230.00.


7. I went online and entered my players' information on October 1st and have not paid yet. What do I owe?

ANSWER:  Registration is not complete until payment is made. Any payments received prior to 11/30 are discounted. Any payments received 12/1/2021 and after are $230.00. There are no refunds after February 20th, 2023. All Refunds prior to February 20th, 2023 will exclude the $30 credit card processing fee EYLA incurs with each registration.

Checks made out to Exeter Youth Lacrosse Association can be mailed to EYLA  -  7 Granite Street Exeter, NH 03833


8. Can I help coach my child's team?  

ANSWER:  YES, EYLA strongly recommends parent involvement. Please email dccaswell@aol.com for further information. No worries if you do not have experience in lacrosse, EYLA will help you get there!


9. My child has never played and thinks they want to. Is there any way we could borrow equipment from EYLA before incurring additional expenses to see if they like lacrosse?

ANSWER: OF COURSE! Please email Wayne Demers at wdemers@comcast.net and he will gladly assist in this process.


10. Will there be a Winter Clinic and when will it start?

ANSWER: No, Exeter will not be holding a Winter Clinic. Periodically local clubs will email EYLA to share an upcoming clinic and we will spread the word via email to our registered families.  Please be sure to read all of your EYLA emails.  


11. Does EYLA accept #areuin Card Members?

ANSWER: Yes, EYLA accepts #areuin members. Please email Dorine at dccaswell@aol.com. We will assist with registration, uniforms, and provide equipment, stock pending, but we have plenty of gear! No worries there! EYLA wants kids to play and love lacrosse!


All of us at EYLA are volunteers, we do our very best to get information to our families in a timely and efficient manner. Please feel free to share our website with your friends and family who may have players interested in playing.  EYLA focuses on creating a love of the game for the kids. We ask parents to share who we are and what we do. We also ask parents to get involved whether it be coaching or assisting, as it is a great way to learn the game, have fun with your kids and make amazing memories together. 


Thank you for being a part of the EYLA family!  Should you have additional questions email Dorine Caswell at dccaswell@aol.com 

by posted 09/14/2021
How Strengthen Relationships with Boys Can Help Them Learn

How Strengthening Relationships with Boys Can Help Them Learn

Years ago, when Michael Reichert’s oldest son was born, he and his wife made a commitment to shield him from the “toxic pressures and cultural norms that we believed would try to steal our son’s humanity from him.” 

But it turns out that parents can’t build a wall around their children, says Reichert, a clinical psychologist and author of "How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men." What parents and teachers can do is strengthen boys’ resilience to be themselves.

Reichert is hopeful that a new space is opening up in how we think about boys and boyhood. For generations, he says, “we have rationalized a wide range of losses and casualties” by repeating intractable myths: “Oh, that’s just the nature of boys, or boys just don’t do as well in classrooms, or boys don’t do well with emotional intimacy.” 

These persistent stereotypes have influenced how we interacted with boys from infancy, says Reichert, and infiltrated our classrooms and playing fields. For example, he points to a long-term study of boys between ages 4 and 6. Researchers found that boys dramatically changed how they related to others during these years as they “absorbed norms for how they were supposed to act as boys.” They traveled from “presence to pretense,” says Reichert—from being emotionally honest in relationships with peers to using posturing and bravado as they adhered to group norms about how boys “should” behave. In molding their behavior to this standard, “it cost them their authenticity, exuberance, and confidence.”  

Boys Are Relational Learners

There are troubling statistics about boys in K-12 schools. They are more likely to drop out of school than their female peers, and according to data from the Department of Education, boys account for approximately 70% of all suspensions and expulsions, a rate that is disproportionately higher for boys of color. 


To support boys in our classrooms, Reichert points to one robust, consistent finding from his 30 years of research: boys are relational learners. They learn best in the context of strong, supportive relationships. 

In one study, Reichert and his team gathered data from 2,500 teachers and students in six different countries.  He asked the boys and their teachers one simple question: “What’s worked?” For teachers, what has worked to help you reach boys? For boys, what have teachers done that has worked to support your learning and engagement? When the researchers coded the data, a couple of themes emerged. 

First, effective teachers used strategies to capture boys’ attention and then carried that energy into the lesson. The strongest teachers entered into a relationship with the class, using feedback from students to refine the lesson until it worked.

But another dominant theme came from the boys themselves. “In the survey, we said, ‘Please don’t mention names or provide identifying information,' ” says Reichert, but the boys ignored those instructions and described teachers’ personalities in detail. They cared about the relationships they had with teachers. 

“We, the adults who design the structures and pedagogy they experience —we were missing something. The boys, however, were very, very clear about it: They are relational learners. This is first base.” 

Healing Relationship Breakdowns

If relationships are central to engaging boys in academics, then teachers need tools for healing inevitable “relational breakdowns.” 

“Every teacher in every classroom has some students who they have a hard time working with,” says Reichert. And in any relationship, there is a natural cycle of connection, disconnection, and then reconnection.  But this process does not always go smoothly. After teachers have tried multiple strategies for reaching a student, they can enter “defensive, self-protective mode,” says Reichert, thinking, “I’ve done everything I can, so the next step is his” or “That boy’s learning issues or behavior or family issues are just too much.”  

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Reichert’s research found that, for boys, these relational breakdowns with teachers were highly consequential, causing them to construct self-concepts around failure and to turn off from certain subjects or school altogether.

“Here’s the rub,” says Reichert.  “In our research, we have heard about every kind of problem, and we have also heard from boys who were being reached and transformed” despite those problems. “Every boy, theoretically, can be reached by a teacher or a coach,” he says, and adults need to hold out hope that “if they find the right relational approach, they will be able to reach the boy they are having a hard time with.” 

Reichert contends that the job of being a relationship manager “follows the professional,” and that as professionals, teachers need to take the lead in “instigating repair for relationships that have been damaged.”

Why? In his research, he found that even high-achieving boys struggle with approaching teachers when a relationship has soured. “I put together a focus group of boys at one school– top students. When I asked, ‘Do you have breakdowns in relationships with teachers?’ they were immediately able to tell stories.  What did you do to fix it? Nothing, they said.”

When he probed them to explain why, the boys described a power asymmetry with adults. They did not perceive that it was within their role to initiate restorative conversations. 


Of course, this also speaks to the need to coach boys with concrete strategies they can use when they are in a conflict with a teacher, says Reichert, and parents can help with this. “We need parents to sign up to the idea that the relationship between the teacher and the student is primary. Our job is not to swoop in and solve the problem but to empower the boy to go back to the teacher and work it out.” 

Creating a System of Support

If schools want to reach boys, strengthen their emotional resilience, and help them stay engaged in school, school leaders need to focus on “relational learning” from the top down. Take a look at mission statements, professional development, schedules, and class sizes. Do these basic structures support transformative relationships between teachers and students?

Teachers and coaches also benefit from peer networks that can help them “reset their own thinking about a relationship that has gone south.” Reichert suggests structuring small groups where teachers can safely present a case about a boy they have been struggling with -- describing what’s happening, what’s been done, and how they feel. “It breaks teachers’ hearts when they can’t make it work with a student,” says Reichert. These peer networks normalize the struggle and provide an opportunity to receive emotional support and practical, strategic feedback.

Parenting Emotionally Resilient Boys

The most basic way to support boys’ emotional and character development is also the simplest: listen to them. “Listening is the most important tool parents have for building boys’ resilience,” says Reichert. “I haven’t found a boy who doesn’t have a story he wants to tell. Boys are simply not getting the opportunity to be listened to deeply.”

Both boys and girls have rich emotional lives, but the expression of these feelings may differ because of cultural expectations. “We tell girls not to show anger, to be nice,” says Reichert. “And we tell boys not to show vulnerability or fear, to suck it up or man up.” 

When parents open up space for boys to talk, they can nurture a healthier range of emotional expression. “Establish with your son that you are interested in him,” says Reichert. “Yesterday, for what duration did you listen to your son? Not correcting him, listening. Often we are simply not very good at it because no one listened to us much.” 

Reichert advocates scheduling a block of time each week—even 30 minutes—where the only task is to “accompany your son on anything he wants to do with you.” That might be playing video games or listening to music. Consistency is the key, because “a boy can come to count on there being a space where he can have a parent's full attention.”

When boys are cut off from their ability to process intense emotions, they are going to act it out in some way—whether that’s teasing siblings or resisting homework. This is almost always a cry for an intervention, says Reichert. He recommends calmly employing the listen-limit-listen strategy.  First, listen to your child’s complaints or frustrations—the emotions that are on the surface. Then, limit the harmful behavior (“I’m not going to let you treat your sister this way. I’m not going to let you lie to me about your homework. You are better than that.”). When parents set limits, “more emotions will flare into the open,” says Reichert, and right beneath the surface will be another layer—such as a teacher who is giving him a hard time or a peer conflict—that “you would never have found out if you didn’t give him space to peel back the layers and help him be himself.”

Ultimately, what boys really need to thrive is a strong connection to at least one stable, loving adult, says Reichert. “Here’s what we are trying to accomplish: every boy known and loved, every boy having the sense that someone has ‘got him’—that someone who knows who he his and what he’s facing and really cares.”  They need a relational anchor, and parents, teachers and coaches can all be “that someone” in the life of a boy.


by posted 02/05/2020
Choosing the Correct Girls Stick

Hi All,

We have had a number of inquiries regarding choosing the correct girl’s stick. Coach Preneta (Girls varsity coach at Exeter High School) has done some research and recommends the following choices:
Brine Amonte or Amonte 2
STX Exult
Nike sticks are made by STX so basically the same, just different colors.
The final analysis seems to be that when purchasing a girl’s stick you are better off buying a better stick. The better stick will make catching and throwing easier and unlike the boys sticks which get broken on a regular basis the girls sticks can last for a number of years. The boy’s game is much more physical with more stick checking which results in more broken sticks.

by posted 02/28/2013
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